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Gender Non-Conformity

Genderqueer (gender nonconformity, gender variant, gender diverse, non-binary, gender expansive, gender ambiguous, gender atypical, gendery wendery) is behavior or gender expression by an individual that does not match the gender norms of the gender they are perceived to be by society. A person who exhibits gender variance may be called a gender bender or a gender outlaw, and may be transgender or otherwise variant in their gender identity. In the case of transgender people, they may be perceived, or perceive themselves as, gender nonconforming before transitioning, but might not be perceived as such after transitioning. Some intersex people may also exhibit gender variance.

 


 

The terms gender variance and gender variant are used by scholars of psychology, psychiatry, anthropology, and gender studies, as well as advocacy groups of gender variant people themselves. The term gender-variant is deliberately broad, encompassing such specific terms as transsexual, butch and femme, queen, sissy, tomboy, travesti, or hijra.

The word transgender usually has a narrower meaning and somewhat different connotations, including a non-identification with the gender assigned at birth. Transgender can be defined as an "umbrella term for people whose gender identity or gender expression differs from the sex they were assigned at birth."  But, not all gender variant people identify as transgender, and not all transgender people identify as gender variant — many identify simply as men or women. Gender identity is one's internal sense of their own gender; while most people have a gender identity of a boy or a man, or a girl or a woman, gender identity for other people is more complex than two choices. Furthermore, gender expression is the external manifestation of one's gender identity, usually through "masculine," "feminine," or gender variant presentation or behavior.

 

"Gender nonconforming" was among the 56 genders made available on Facebook in 2014.
 

LINKS:

 

Will Smith's Gender Bending Son Jaden

Mother's Story: Raising a Gender Non-Conforming Child

Wikipedia: Gender Variance

Lessons for Parents of Gender Non-Conforming Kids

Fluidity: Short Film

Gender Non-Conforming Children: Myths, Misconceptions, Lies

Young Boy's Dream of Being a Princess

How I Chased Away the Bullies of My Gender Creative Child

Stray Shadows: Short Film

GLSEN: Non-Binary Students Need Allies

8 Things Not to Say to Boys Who Wear Pink

Gender Diversity

Dispelling Myths About Gender Non-Conforming Children

Video: Gender Bender

The Whittington Family: Ryland's Story

Raising my Rainbow: What Gender Non-Conforming Kids Want You to Know

Clothing Store: Just for Girls?

No Such Thing as Girl Toys and Boy Toys

 


Gender Questions

What does it mean to be gender non conforming?  Childhood gender nonconformity (CGN) is a phenomenon in which prepubescent children do not conform to expected gender-related sociological or psychological patterns, or identify with the opposite sex/gender.

 

What is gender diversity?  Gender diversity is how different genders are represented in a relevant setting. Primarily this term is often used to refer to females and males, though in some contexts and research the term may also refer to those who fall into non-binary categories of gender.

 

What does it mean to be gender fluid?  Gender fluid is a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. Their gender can also vary at random or vary in response to different circumstances.

 

What is gender questioning?   The questioning of one's gender, sexual identity, sexual orientation, or all three is a process of exploration by people who may be unsure, still exploring, and concerned about applying a social label to themselves for various reasons.

 

 

What is genderqueer?   Genderqueer is a term that is growing in usage, representing a blurring of the lines surrounding society’s rigid views of both gender identity and sexual orientation. Genderqueer people embrace a fluidity of gender expression that is not limiting. They may not identify as male or female, but as both, neither, or as a blend. Similarly, genderqueer is a more inclusive term with respect to sexual orientation. It does not limit a person to identifying strictly as heterosexual or homosexual. (Note: This term is NOT typically used in connection with gender identity in pre-adolescent children).

 

What is androgyny?   Androgyny is a state in which gendered behaviors, presentations and roles include aspects of both masculinity and femininity. People of any gender identity or sexual orientation can be androgynous, but it is often favored by non-binary people as a means to externally express their gender identity. At way of expressing androgyny can include dressing in way where one is unable to tell if they are male or female. People who feel that their gender identity is androgynous often identify as androgyne.

 


Genderqueer Videos
 

I Am a Gender Non-Conforming Parent

Tomgirl: Documentary About a Gender Fluid Child

Ted Talk: Gender is Not a Straight Line

Pot Noodle TV Ad: Young Man's Dream in the Ring (You Can Make It)

Boy: Short Film

Ted Talk: Gender Fluidity

A Different Gender Every Day?

Identity: In and Beyond the Binary

Seven Things You Should Never Ask a Gender Non-Conforming Person

Miles Jai: What is Gender Non-Conforming?

Ted Talk: Why is Gender Identity so Important?

Is Gender a Social Construct?

 


Genderqueer

 

Genderqueer, also termed non-binary or gender-expansive, is a catch-all category for gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine‍—‌identities which are thus outside of the gender binary and cisnormativity. Genderqueer people may identify as one or more of the following:
 

--having an overlap of, or indefinite lines between, gender identity
--having two or more genders (being bigender, trigender, or pangender)
--having no gender (being agender, nongendered, genderless, genderfree or neutrois)
--moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender identity (genderfluid)
--being third gender or other-gendered, a category which includes those who do not place a name to their gender

 

 

 

Some genderqueer people use that as their only description of their gender identity, while others also identify as another gender identity such as androgyne, bigender etc. Genderqueer people may also identify as transgender and/or nonbinary. Some genderqueer people may wish to transition, either medically or by changing their name and/or pronouns to suit their preferred gender expression. Genderqueer people can have any sexual orientation.

Many genderqueer individuals see gender and sex as separable aspects of a person and sometimes identify as a male woman, a female man, or a male/female/intersex genderqueer. Genderqueer identification may also occur for political reasons.

"Genderqueer", along with being an umbrella term, has been used as an adjective to refer to any people who transgress mainstream distinctions of gender, regardless of their self-defined gender identity, for example, those who "queer" gender, expressing it non-normatively. Androgynous is sometimes also used as a descriptive term for people in this category, but genderqueer is used to indicate that gender norms can be transgressed through a combination of masculinity and femininity, or neither, and because not all genderqueer people identify as androgyne.

 

LINKS:

 

Wikipedia: Genderqueer

Washington Post: Meet Someone Who Identifies as Genderqueer

Slate: What the Heck is Genderqueer?

New Genderqueer Terminology

Wikipedia: Genderbender

 


What is Gender Non-Conformity?

On matters of sex and sexuality, there is no avoiding discussing gender.  It is important to start by defining “gender,” and distinguishing it from “(biological) sex.” Too often, biological sex is thought to be synonymous with the social category of gender. Although they are consistent for the majority of the population (i.e., feminine women and masculine men), sex and gender are not consistent for a sizable number of people. And, for some individuals, the typical categories of sex (i.e., female and male) and gender (i.e., feminine and masculine) simply do not fit.

What Is Gender Non-Conformity?

Typically, when attempting to answer such a question, we jump to focus on gender non-conformity, while taking gender conformity as a given. Gender conformity can be defined most simply as behavior and appearance that conforms to the social expectations for one’s gender. So, for gender conforming women, this means behaving and appearing in ways that are considered feminine. Gender non-conformity, then, is behaving and appearing in ways that are considered atypical for one’s gender.

 



Confusing Gender Non-Conformity And Sexual Orientation

Similar to the way in which gender is treated as synonymous with (biological) sex, so, too, is sexual orientation with gender expression. Gender nonconforming people are often assumed to also be lesbian, gay, or bisexual, while gender conforming people are assumed to be heterosexual. (Some scholars call this heterocentricism, meaning that everyone is assumed to be heterosexual unless something, like gender non-conformity, makes one think otherwise.) Indeed, gender expectations are intertwined with attitudes about sexual orientation; for example, boys who fail to live up to the societal standards of masculinity may be teased and harassed, even called a “fag” or some other pejorative term that questions his heterosexuality.

Gender Non-Conformity, Sexual Orientation, And Health

Researchers have noted that there may be real differences in terms of gender between lesbian, gay, and bisexual people (LGB) and heterosexual people. In particular, there are higher rates of gender non-conformity in both childhood and adulthood among LGB people than among heterosexual people. But, it is important to note that gender non-conformity is not universal among LGB people, nor is it absent among heterosexuals.

A new study by Gerulf Rieger and Ritch C. Savin-Williams suggests that different rates of gender non-conformity may actually be the reason for differences in psychological well-being and mental health between heterosexual and LGB youth. That is, while many researchers have documented worse mental health and well-being among sexual minorities compared to heterosexuals, Rieger and Savin-Williams have found that this difference is at least partly due to differences in gender non-conformity; even among heterosexuals, gender non-conformity is associated with worse mental health, likely due to teasing and harassment from peers and family. As other scholars have suggested, it may be the case that prejudice and discrimination against LGB people is more about enforcing strict gender norms than it is about sex and sexuality.

Putting “Gender Non-Conformity” Into Context

While it is critical that we better understand the role gender non-conformity plays in society, it is important that we understand what this concept means. As many sociologists, like myself, emphasize, we must understand that this concept is not naturally occurring, rather, it is defined (and redefined) by society. And, as something that is socially constructed or defined, its meaning and significance varies across time, space, and even groups.

To give an example, think about the way women were expected to dress 60 years ago compared to today. Women are freer to wear pants, blazers, flat shoes, even ties and dress shirts. (Of course, we must be mindful that the same loosening of gendered clothing expectations have not occurred as extensively for men.) While it is uncommon for men to hold hands and kiss in many Western countries, including the US, it is somewhat common in other parts of the world (e.g., Egypt). So, in recognizing the importance of understanding what gender conformity and nonconformity are, we must acknowledge that such concepts are not universally defined nor naturally occurring.

 

(From the Kinsey Institute)
 

 


Gender Variant Definitions

 

Gender identity” refers to how people see and identify themselves; for example, some people identify as female; some people identify as male; some people as a combination of genders; as a gender other than male or female; or as no gender. For example, transgender girls identify as girls but were classified as males when they were born. Transgender boys identify as boys but were classified female when they were born. Everyone has a gender identity.

“Gender Expression” refers to how people express their gender identity. Everyone expresses their gender identity in different ways: for example, in the way they dress, the length of their hair, the way they act or speak and in their choice of whether or not to wear make-up.

“Transgender” is a general term used to describe people whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.

“Gender nonconforming” refers to people who do not follow other people’s ideas or stereotypes about how they should look or act based on the female or male sex they were assigned at birth.

“Transgender” and “Gender nonconforming” are umbrella terms that often encompass other terms such as transsexual, cross dresser, gender queer, femme queen, agender, Two Spirit, and many more. It is important to refer to people with the term they prefer.

“Gender Questioning” People who are questioning their gender identity might be wondering whether they identify as a boy, a girl or another gender. They might also be experimenting with different genders.

 

LINKS:

 

Gender Terminology

Wikipedia: Androgyny

BuzzFeed: Stunningly Beautiful Androgynous Models

Wikipedia: Metrosexual

 


My Son Wears Heels

 

Julie Tarney is the author of My Son Wears Heels: One Mom's Journey From Clueless to Kickass.  She is  a speaker, educator, and an advocate for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer/questioning (LGBTQ) youth. In her book she tells the story of her son:

 

"In 1992, my only child, Harry, told me, 'Inside my head I’m a girl.' He was two years old.  I had no idea what that meant. I felt disoriented even trying to process it. Wasn’t it my role to encourage and support my child? But surely I had to set some limits to his self-expression—or did I? Would he be bullied? What kind of guidance would he need? Could I do the right thing? And what was the right thing?"

 



She wrote My Son Wears Heels to share what she learned about gender identity, gender expression, and self-acceptance from her only child, Harry, and what her parenting journey with Harry taught her about herself.

“I know from emails I get on my blog that many families are searching,” Tarney said, “so confused, or worried, about what the implications might be for their child, or themselves, because the world is not often kind, accepting, or safe for kids who ‘do’ gender differently.”

Julie serves on the board of the It Gets Better Project. She blogs for Huffington Post’s “Queer Voices” and “Parenting” pages, and is a contributing writer for My Kids Is Gay and the True Colors Fund’s Give a Damn Campaign. She also volunteers for the PFLAG NYC Save Schools Program.

A longtime resident of Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Julie now lives in Brooklyn, New York. She can often be found cheering in the audience at her creative director/photographer and sometimes-drag-artist son Harry’s performances.
 

LINK:

 

Article: Lessons for Parents of Gender Non-Conforming Kids

Book: My Son Wears Heels by Julie Tarney

Blog: First Halloween My Boy Wanted to be a Girl

Blog: My Son's Second Halloween Adventure

 


Tips for Parents

 

1. Gender may not be what you think it is. Gender for me used to mean one of two boxes you checked on a driver’s license application. But I now know that I was confusing sex and gender to mean the same thing, which I think a lot of people still do. Gender identity is about how you feel inside, who you know yourself to be. And it develops over time. We all discover ourselves as we grow, and finding our true gender selves is part of that discovery. The gender experts will tell you that if a child’s sense of self is being denied, they will likely become distressed, low-spirited, or depressed. And for me, any one of those words connotes a child struggling not with their identity but with a search for freedom within their family.

 


2. There’s no right way to be a boy or a girl. Transgender kids will tell you that a girl can have a penis and a boy can have a vagina. A gender-nonconforming, gender-creative, or gender-diverse child knows that boys can be happy wearing dresses, playing with Barbie dolls or liking the color pink. Kids are as unique as their fingerprints, so it follows that not every child will fit inside the boundaries of pink or blue that our historically rigid society has constructed as the norm.

3. Every child is a whole person. Each child — and adult — has traits that our society has deemed as either “masculine” or “feminine” but are in fact just the characteristics that make up a complete person. Some boys like to express the “feminine” side of their whole being, while the same can be said for girls and those traits labeled “masculine.” I like to project how much kinder and more accepting our society would be if sensitivity and nurturing qualities in all kids were as valued as strength and assertiveness.

 



4. A gender-nonconforming or trans child is a thought leader. If your child is defying gender norms and stereotypes, they are r-shaping the way we think about gender. They are at the center of a sea change not only among families but in schools where diversity and fairness are key and among those legislators who want to ensure all children are treated equally under the law. I compare gender-nonconformity to handedness. Being right- or left-handed is just who you are. Right-handedness is more common, but that doesn’t make it correct, more “normal,” or the only way to be. Increased visibility of our less common trans and gender-nonconforming children is broadening awareness and expanding the national conversation about gender. I like to think they are among the leaders on progress to rework society’s rules about gender identity, gender expression, and the expectations that follow an “M” or “F” stamped on a birth certificate.

 

(From Julie Tarney)

 


Books and Films on the Subject

 

Tomboy: French Film by Celine Sciamma

Tomgirl: Film Written by Stephen Przybylowshi, Directed by Jeremy Asher Lynch

Tomboy: Graphic Memoir by Liz Prince

Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes: Book by Diane Ehrensaft

 

LINKS:

 

2011 French Film: Tomboy

2015 Film: Tomgirl

2016 Book: Gender Creative Child

2014 Book: Tomboy

 

 


Genderqueer, Non-Binary, Agender

 

What is Gender?  Gender refers to the behavioral, cultural, and psychological traits typically associated with males and females. However this view is limiting since people can be male, female, transgender, genderqueer (GQ), gender non-binary (NB or Enby), gender non-conforming, or agender (AG), for example.

Gender non-conforming refers to people who do not adhere to society's rules about dress and activities for people that are based on their biological sex and gender assignment.  A gender non-conforming person may choose to present as neither clearly male, nor clearly female, but rather as a gender-free individual.  Some gender non-conformists are transgender, gay, lesbian or bisexual. Others do not identify with any of these categories.  It is also common for people to be gender conforming along some gender markers (like how they dress) but conform to their assigned gender on others (like the pronouns they chose to use).

In a world that like to divide things into clear "male" / "female" boxes, many people are gender conformist without adopting gender non-conforming as an identity.

Isn't That the Same as Being Gender Non-Binary?  Sometimes the term gender non-binary is used as an umbrella term that can include people who are genderqueer, agender, and genderfluid, or gender non-conforming.

Other times it is an identity of its own.  The term comes from the idea that most people see gender as "binary," or divided into two. These divisions are generally presented as: male and female, man and woman, or for children, boy and girl.   The binary division also divides people's gender expression, into masculine and feminine behaviors.  People who identify as gender non-binary have gender identities that don't fit into the gender binary.

So Then, Being Gender Non-Conforming is Part of Being Transgender?  Again, some people who are gender non-conforming may identify as transgender and others won't. Transgender is an umbrella term for people whose gender identity and / or gender expression differs from what is typically associated with the gender they were assigned at birth. Transgender individuals may have the bodies of one sex, but a gender identity usually associated with the other.

Different Ways People Identify.  Some people consider themselves neither men nor women. Others identify as both men and women. It is also possible to be non-binary and identify outside of the male/female divisions, but still identify with a clear gender identity.

Gender Identity is Just Not an Either or Thing.  Despite the fact that many people identify along a clear male or female division, plenty of others do not. Acknowledging the range of ways that individuals can experience gender can help affirm people's identities and is also just a more accurate way to understand gender.

Gender non-conformity can be an identity or just how someone chooses to move through a very gendered world.
 


Without Gender

 

"Agender" is a term which can be literally translated as 'without gender'. It can be seen either as a non-binary gender identity or as a statement of not having a gender identity. People who identify as agender may describe themselves as one or more of the following:
 

--Genderless or lacking gender.
--Gender neutral. This may be meant in the sense of being neither man or woman yet still having a gender.
--Neutrois or neutrally gendered.
--Having an unknown or undefinable gender; not aligning with any gender.
--Having no other words that fit their gender identity.

--Not knowing or not caring about gender, as an internal identity and/or as an external label.
--Deciding not to label their gender.
--Identifying more as a person than any gender at all.

 

 

Many agender people also identify as genderqueer, non-binary and/or transgender. However, some agender people prefer to avoid these terms, especially transgender, as they feel this implies identifying as a gender other than their assigned gender, while they in fact do not identify as any gender at all.

Agender people can have any preference for pronouns, although some prefer to avoid using gendered language about themselves as much as possible. They can also present in any way - masculine, feminine, both or neither. Agender people can experience dysphoria if they are unable to express their identity in a way they are comfortable with.

Agender people who wish to appear gender-neutral or genderless may have gender nullification surgery to achieve a body that lacks sex characteristics. Chromosome therapy is currently being studied by researchers at UC Berkeley which attempts to nullify those chromosomes which stereotypically identify the individual by a sex.

Agender people can be of any sexuality and should not be confused with being asexual.

Agender is also called genderblank, genderfree, genderless, gendervoid, non-gendered, or null gender. Agender is an identity under the nonbinary and transgender umbrella terms. Agender individuals find that they have no gender identity, although some define this more as having a gender identity that is neutral.
 

Some agender people feel that they have no gender identity, while others feel that agender is itself a gender identity. This is similar to and overlaps with the experience of being gender neutral or having a neutral gender identity.

As some agender people have no gender identity, it is important to not talk about nonbinary or transgender people's experiences only in the sense of gender identity.

 

What is Neutrois? Neutrois is a non-binary gender identity that falls under the genderqueer or transgender umbrellas. There is no one definition of Neutrois, since each person that self-identifies as such experiences their gender differently. The most common ones are: Neutral-gender, Null-gender, Neither male nor female, Genderless, Agender.

It is often said that non-gender or genderlessness is the experience of having no gender identity at all, whereas gender neutral or neutrois is the experience of having a gender identity, a gender identity which is not male or female, but neutral. However, these statements don't match the experiences of everyone who has taken up these identities as their own. This is a problem of a difference between word definitions that are prescriptivist (telling everyone how they should use a word, and saying that many people use it wrong) and descriptivist (describing how people have actually been using a word, without telling them to change).
 

LINKS:

 

Non-Binary/Agender

What is Neutrois?

Myths About Non-Binary People

 


Gender Bending

 

According to Wikipedia, a gender bender is one who genderfucks.  A gender bender is a person who disrupts, "bends", "messes with," or "fucks with", expected gender roles. Gender bending is sometimes a form of social activism undertaken to destroy rigid gender roles and defy sex-role stereotypes, notably in cases where the gender-nonconforming person finds these roles oppressive. It can be a reaction to, and protest of, homophobia, transphobia or misogyny.

 

Some gender benders identify with the sex assigned them at birth, but challenge the societal norms that assign expectations of particular, gendered behavior to that sex. This rebellion can involve androgynous dress, adornment, behavior, and atypical gender roles. Gender benders may self-identify as trans or genderqueer. However, many trans people do not consider themselves "gender benders".

 

 

As reported in Daily Gazette (Jan 26, 2012), “genderfuck” is a term used to describe “a person's gender identity (as in male, female, no gender, queer) or the act of consciously and conspicuously challenging traditional ideas of the gender binary through androgyny, hyperbole, and cross-dressing.”

 

The Urban Dictionary defines "genderfuck" as deliberately sending mixed messages about ones sex, usually through ones dress (e.g., wearing a skirt and a beard).  It is based upon the belief/idea that either gender does not exist (but only in the context of culture) or that there are multipule genders (beyond male and female), including but not limited to transgender.

It is giving a statement of freedom for all genders in a society where gender confines people. It does not mean that a guy wearing a dress is gay... He is just genderfucking.  Gender, sex, and sexuality are separate characteristics.

In modern conversation you might hear the question: "Why does that boy have long hair and a skirt?"   the answer might be: "He genderfucks" or "He's a genderfucker" or "He's genderfucking."   Or, somone might say about themselves: "I dress genderfuck" or
"I am genderfuck."

 

LINKS:

 

Wikipedia: Gender Bender

Daily Gazette: What the Genderfuck?

Gender Queeries: Some Gender Queer Identities

 


Atypical Gender Roles

 

An atypical gender role is a gender role comprising gender-typed behaviors not typically associated with a cultural norm. Gender role stereotypes are the socially determined model which contains the cultural beliefs about what the gender roles should be. It is what a society expects men and women to think, look like, and behave. Gender role stereotypes are often based on gender norms. Examples of some atypical gender roles:
 

Househusbands  -  Men who stay at home and take care of the house and children while their partner goes to work. According to Sam Roberts of the New York Times, in 1970 four percent of American men earned less than their wives. National Public Radio reported that by 2015 this had risen to 38%.
 

Metrosexual  -  A man of any sexual orientation who has interest in style and fashion and dresses well.
 

Androgyne  -  An androgynous person, identifying as neither male nor female; OR presenting a gender either mixed or neutral.
 

Crossdresser  -  A person who dresses in the clothing and approximating the appearance of members of the opposite gender, in public or solely in private, without proclaiming themselves to be that gender. Cross dressers may be cisgender, or they may be trans people who have not yet transitioned.
 

Hijra  -  A (sometimes neutered) person whose anatomy is in most cases identified as male (more rarely female or intersex), but whose gender identity is neither masculine nor feminine, whose gender role includes special clothing that identifies them as a hijra, and whose gender role includes a special place in society and special occupations.
 

Khanith  -  The gynecomimetic partner in a heterogender homosexual relationship, who may retain his public status as a man, despite his departure in dress and behavior from a socio-normal male role. The clothing of these individuals must be intermediate between that of a male and a female. His social role includes the freedom to associate with women in the entire range of their social interactions, including singing with them at a wedding.

 


Metrosexual

 

According to Merriam-Webster, a metrosexual is usually urban heterosexual male given to enhancing his personal appearance by fastidious grooming, beauty treatments, and fashionable clothes.

 

The term "metrosexual" is a merging of the words "metropolitan" and "sexual," coined in 1994 describing a man (especially one living in an urban, post-industrial, capitalist culture) who is especially meticulous about his grooming and appearance, typically spending a significant amount of time and money on shopping as part of this. The term is thought to describe heterosexual men who adopt fashions and lifestyles stereotypically associated with homosexual men. While the term suggests that a metrosexual is heterosexual, it can refer to anyone with any sexual orientation.

 

The term "metrosexual" originated in an article by Mark Simpson published on November 15, 1994, in The Independent. Simpson wrote: "Metrosexual man, the single young man with a high disposable income, living or working in the city (because that's where all the best shops are), is perhaps the most promising consumer market of the decade. In the Eighties he was only to be found inside fashion magazines such as GQ. In the Nineties, he’s everywhere and he's going shopping."


However, it was not until the early 2000s when Simpson returned to the subject that the term became globally popular. In 2002, Salon.com published an article by Simpson, which described David Beckham as "the biggest metrosexual in Britain" and offered this updated definition: "The typical metrosexual is a young man with money to spend, living in or within easy reach of a metropolis — because that’s where all the best shops, clubs, gyms and hairdressers are. He might be officially gay, straight or bisexual, but this is utterly immaterial because he has clearly taken himself as his own love object and pleasure as his sexual preference."

 

Metrosexuals may be the modern incarnation of the 19th century "dandy."

 

In its soundbite diffusion through the channels of marketeers and popular media, who eagerly and constantly reminded their audience that the metrosexual was straight, the metrosexual has congealed into something more digestible for consumers: a heterosexual male who is in touch with his feminine side—he color-coordinates, cares deeply about exfoliation, and has perhaps manscaped. Men did not go to shopping malls, so consumer culture promoted the idea of a sensitive man who went to malls, bought magazines and spent freely to improve his personal appearance.

 

According to the Urban Dictionary, You might be "metrosexual" if...

--You just can't walk past a Banana Republic store without making a purchase.
--You own 20 pairs of shoes, half a dozen pairs of sunglasses, just as many watches and you carry a man-purse.
--You see a stylist instead of a barber, because barbers don't do highlights.
--You can make her lamb shanks and risotto for dinner and Eggs Benedict for breakfast... all from scratch.
--You only wear Calvin Klein boxer-briefs.
--You shave more than just your face. You also exfoliate and moisturize.
--You would never, ever own a pickup truck.
--You can't imagine a day without hair styling products.
--You'd rather drink wine than beer... but you'll find out what estate and vintage first.
--Despite being flattered (even proud) that gay guys hit on you, you still find the thought of actually getting intimate with another man truly repulsive.


 


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